A Psychological Trauma can leave one struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won't go away. Higher impact results in a higher fear of the event, fear of helplessness and guilty of the event. Leading to one being traumatised for a long, long time, and at times leading to mental imbalance, hysteria or phobias.
During this Pandemic, many of us have been subjected to various situations, loss of loved ones, job loss, lack of social contact, long confinement with unlike-minded people, higher family pressures and conflict. This may take a toll, building a volcano of emotions at a subconscious level in an individual.
Reaction in such an emotional state is a very individualistic phenomenon and will vary from one person to another. People experiencing Trauma shall display a wide range of physical and emotional responses. For instance, one could blur out an unwanted statement, which is wrongly timed and quite unlikely of the person saying it. Such socially damaging statements are an "Abnormal reaction to a Normal situation". It could result in recking relationships and may even result in financial losses.
"It's normal for people to react differently, or let's say in a very "strange ways". The need in such situations is someone who emphasises and patiently with sympathy communicates with the victim, reassures, and immediately tries to mitigate the issue, with an endeavour to ensure that things come back to normal and there is no reminiscence either in expression or verbal of the unfortunate event. That someone, "the saviour," totally take the victim under your wings and protects him till the end.
Unfortunately, we live in an unforgiving, opportunistic and merciless society that forage on things to nail people down and draw sadistic pleasure out of it. The recipient, and the spectators, finding this as an opportunity, like, hungry wolves pounce onto the victim with verbal assault of all kinds; current, historical, and remotely possible events are all recovered from old memory libraries, and the victim is emotionally massacred with verbal assaults. In intense instances, victims have lost consciousness, and I have witnessed such brutality more than once.
This communication is usually a kind of bickering, bringing the victim into the spotlight of receiving flack for both what they might have and what might have been precipitated through motivated actions of the recipient or his accomplice. Vitim is the target of all the traumatising discourse.
Sadly, the issue doesn't end here; it's the Trauma that the victim goes through later, based on the Emotional & psychological effect of the event.
The victim goes into a tailspin of thoughts
- Why wasn't I more careful?
- Shock, denial, or disbelief
- Guilt, shame, self-blame
- Anger, irritability, mood swings
- Family Rejection or extensive judgmental behaviour
While the experience itself probably felt like a nightmare, it's expected real "nightmares follow it to haunt the aftermath of a trauma" to a level of hysteria, abusiveness, self-destruction, suicidal thoughts and even violence.
In the name of mercy, please consider yourself the "chosen one" to help such a Traumatised person if you have an opportunity.
Stay Blessed
©Jawahar Dhawan
Educated yourself and help someone recover if you can.
