Different Men might have a contrasting taste when it comes to what they find attractive in a woman. But there’s a consensus what they expect from the opposite sex, or what drives them away.
Women aspiring, to change their Man.
Getting into a relationship to change your man is a bad idea, so drop it now the idea of having a man, because whomsoever it might be, he's isn't change any which way. Women, in general, have a misconception that they can change peoples thought orientation. Unfortunately, they spend lifetimes unsuccessfully on this quest.
The Desperate Women
Calling ten times a day showing Desperation can be a little annoying, Let’s face it. All of us are different. You may want him to keep you updated on his life every hour or so, but does he want to do the same?
Don’t push someone to do what you want. You can call your man every hour or so and share what you’re up to if you wish. Make sure you call to keep him updated if you’re stepping out of the office to have coffee with a friend. But don’t ask him what he’s doing.
Hang up within a minute or two. Keep your calls short for a few days and disconnect even before he wants to hang up. It’ll make him miss you more! If he gets the hint and likes these short calls to keep each other updated now and then, he’ll start doing the same too. If he’s not that kind of a guy, tell him a few times that it would feel nice to know what he’s up to now and then. If he doesn’t like it, love him for who he is.
Give your man enough time and space to do his own thing, even if they’re doing nothing. It’s their way to unwind after a long day. There’s a thin line between showing eagerness for your man and suffocating him. As the relationship’s novelty starts to wear off and the love settles into a mature and happy zone, he may want to cut down on the call duration. It doesn’t mean he loves you less. It just means he’s ready to get back to his everyday life when he has other things to do. Just because he’s out with his friends or working late doesn’t mean he’s sowing his wild oats. Do you think you can stop a guy from having an affair if he wants to?
If you display neediness towards a man, he may repel because it indicates that you are insecure in your relationship and, possibly, in yourself. It’s normal for you to feel insecurity when you start seeing a man, such as being anxious when your man isn’t around.
But, when you start asking probing questions concerning your man’s daily activities and whereabouts, it raises a red flag. At any stage, don't share family matters with you man, under the assumption that your only gossiping. ” Understand all men inherently have a protective stance towards their women. He might form an opinion about whom you were referring to, and what he has gathered might not be what you wanted him to get, you were gossiping. The man has formed an opinion with an action plan to be executed at an appropriate time. The aftereffects of such misinterpreted conversations can be devastating.
If he is watching a movie, or his favourite show in the evening either join him or leave him alone. If you want to leave him alone, it doesn't mean you leave him alone in the room. Be nearby Write your journal, paint, read a book, do your thing, reassure his curiosity with the mixture of guilt, get him interested in what you are doing, and that's the most healthy thing to happen in a relationship. The best thing you can do is to allow the relationship to unfold naturally instead of rushing up things.
If you leave him alone and move to another room or out of the house, alone or with someone, you have lost him for sure. Men usually in intense relationships, love the closeness yet be independent.
Losing your Individuality
Fashion doesn't mean being faceless or identical in appearance with almost every other woman. I’m talking about nearly every woman having the same look and style. Show you individuality and uniqueness. Being true to yourself is an important virtue. Also, don’t lose yourself in a relationship; women tend to sacrifice their identity to endear themselves to their men.
Desperate is different from Being dominate or nagging.
Remember Being Desperate is seeking attention, while Dominating is Controlling.
The first is verbal domination when women don’t know when to stop. A woman who constantly authoritatively dominates the conversation and doesn’t let the man speak up will drive a man up the wall.
Tutoring is a significant behaviour displayed by women with this trait. One more time ”you are with the man for his love” not with a mission to change him according to your liking. The man might appreciate a piece of advice now and then, but if the man is continuously being tutored, he will either revolt or walk away from his lady love. Tutoring slowly turns to nagging, and women don't realise that nagging doesn’t work. It might bring short-term results, but it does more harm than good the relationship. When you’re always complaining and being critical, it creates more annoyance and division in your man thoughts and thus harms the relationship. When a man responds and reacts to your nagging, he’s only trying to get you to stop. Don’t be surprised to find your man reluctant to come home early because he wants to avoid dealing with the nagging women.
The most significant error is mirroring dominance socially. While your man might respect and let you be the boss of the house and hear whatever you say because he either loves you too much or wants to avoid the nagging. However, if you openly proclaim your authority in public, you have lost him at that very moment. Men have pride which is more important to them than anything else. You might be left meaningless clinging on to him in certain societies while others allow separation for sure the guy will move on.
Being Financially Independent to Prove a Point.
Being an independent woman is okay. But at what point do you stop being a boss lady? While now we have certain men who are alright to be living off their women. Please understand this is against the genetic code of male behaviour. He probably has taken you as his profession. While this independence and love are at someplace else, or they have bargained a relationship to get their comfort, either way, the relationship is questionable: However, exceptions do prove the rule.
For men, Independence and pride is a desirable state. However, if you are, underplay it. Men never brag and showdown their women when they are successful.
Sometimes, it’s best to give in a little and let the other person in the relationship be the boss. The reasons of equality and women liberation are respected; please understand the words and meaning of equality. Some women become brand ambassadors to avenge years of suppression from that one single man in their lives. It's a personality trait, "but always being the boss can lead to animosity" in a relationship from the other person. Be the boss but don't wear pants.
Trying to be Romans when in Rome
You are often talking in Slang, clubbing, dirty jokes, smoking, football games, hi-five, rowdy behaviour, drinking and gambling. I guess you got the picture. Doing all this to be liked by the one you live with is a bad idea. Men may not like it when you act manly, and so you should ensure that you are yourself in every act.
Conclusion
Don't be desperate; give your man space. Losing your individuality is not a great idea; being different is. Dominating and nagging will not change the individual in any way. Being financial independent is great, but always better to underplay. A manly behaviour to get attention may lead to apparent character assassination if not by your man but maybe by others, give it a thought all this affects your relationship.
